Yes, that is how I felt really. The first time he did it, when he said "I'm afraid you don't get any choice in the matter" it completely took the wind out of my sails, and I felt absolutely as if he was correct, there wasn't anything to argue about, and it made me feel very calm and accepting. It does sound as if your wife is rather like me in her dislike of authority, it was one of the things that made me have very confused feelings about my yearnings for an authoritarian man in my life. I've never liked being told what to do, so how could I want a man to tell me what to do? And if I did want him to tell me what to do, why did I dislike it when he did? It was all rather confusing really. Now I have it clear in my mind what I want, and have found that my husband can give it to me, we get on much better and there is much less tension.